Chapter 3: Building On-on-One Relationships



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  • Listening is

  • Good listening includes

    • asking questions to bring out more of the story,

    • not making assumptions – no judgment

    • repeating back key points to make sure you understand

    • think about the speaker, not about your own similar experiences

The value of listening

Building trust.

Body Language



Emotional Intelligence

In the academic world, the words advisor and mentor are often used synonymously. I disagree with this, heartily. An advisor is like a boss or manager, who wants you to succeed, helps you, and provides advice. But an advisor wants you to succeed because you are working on their project and your performance often directly reflects onto their reputation.

Student-Advisor relationships

Asking questions

Mentor-mentee relationships